Hi y’all! Our anniversary is on Sunday, the 18th… and I honestly can’t even believe I’m writing this post… how has one year of marriage already gone by!? I feel like it’s so cliche, but seriously… time seems to go so much faster as we get older and it’s SCARY!
When you get married, everyone always asks you the same question for that whole first year (at least!). “So, how’s married life?” If you’re married, you know exactly what I’m talking about!
To give a little background, Kyle and I met on February 11, 2011 at a Dallas Stars game. We were set up by some mutual friends, and six months later, we moved in together! We lived in 2 different apartments before building our home that we currently live in. We didn’t get engaged until New Year’s Eve of 2014.
So, when someone asked me that question… How’s married life? My initial thought was… well, it’s exactly the same as it’s always been. We didn’t have this big moment of getting married, then moving in together, and learning how to co-habitate during our first year of marriage. I felt like nothing had really changed, except now I had a ring on my finger.
I realize now how untrue that really was. Being married is amazing. It’s also hard. But knowing that I have my absolute BEST FRIEND and my biggest fan by my side for LIFE is truly an incredible feeling. That is not a feeling you get by just being together in the same house. That feeling is something that only comes when you make that leap into the blessing of marriage.
My husband has been my biggest supporter from day one. He’s used to my crazy ideas, my messy, unorganized, creative, entrepreneurial, right brained self. He has never once told me an idea I had was silly. He has 100% supported me through everything I have ever done and wanted to do, and I can’t even put into words what that feels like.
My biggest challenge as a wife (and before as a girlfriend) has been, and still is, remembering that I am part of a TEAM. I have always been pretty independent and I think sometimes I forget that. Like anyone else, I’ve faced challenges that sometimes make it hard for me to trust people, and be vulnerable. I’ve had bad relationships (friendships included) that did nothing but cause hurt and insecurity, and also caused me to lose even more faith in people. There’s a long list of excuses I could make for WHY being vulnerable is hard for me, but what matters is what I do to overcome that. Now, more than ever, as a wife I think it is so important for me to reflect on myself and work harder at being part of the team that is our marriage, and being a Godly wife.
What does being a Godly wife mean for me?
Treating my husband as my greatest gift… because he is!
I want my husband to know how amazing he is… he supports me, comforts me, makes me feel incredibly loved always. He is my rock and my most favorite person in the whole world… and he deserves to feel that way and know that every day, even when I’m having a bad day. For me this includes being selfless (more on that in this post) and putting his needs before mine whenever possible. It also means not only showing him but TELLING him how amazing he is.
Extending Christ-like grace to my husband.
Maybe you’re familiar with this scenario: You’re tired and exhausted from work. You come home before your husband, and maybe you don’t do the 5 loads of laundry that need to be done, or take care of the dishes piled in the sink. Maybe you just really don’t want to cook dinner, or really anything but sit on the couch in silence. Your husband comes home, asks how your day was, makes you feel loved and appreciated (even though you sucked at being a wife that day) ignoring all the things you DIDN’T do, but instead asking if he can help you or do anything to make your day better or easier. THIS is what grace looks like. My husband works hard. Like SO hard. He never complains. Even when I suck at keeping the house clean or doing laundry. He chooses to respond to situations like this by giving me grace that I don’t always deserve.
Praying for my husband daily.
I came across some scripture to help me to pray intentionally for my husband each day. Maybe they can be useful to you too!
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” -Romans 8:28
God IS working in my marriage, always. I pray that I have the clarity to see that and allow Him to work His will.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” –Mark 10:7-8
I thank God every day for bringing my husband to me. I’m blessed beyond measure to have a man as amazing as he is by my side.
“Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers.” -John 3:1-3
I pray that my husband is healthy in body and mind.
So, a year after this magical, amazing day… I am working towards being a more Godly, loving, and grace-giving wife. After all, my husband deserves it all. Marriage is a blessing, and I intend to appreciate that blessing every day. I can’t wait to celebrate our anniversary by thawing out the most incredible wedding cake EVVVVVERRRRRRR and drinking lots of champs… ALSO, we’re taking a fun trip at the end of June to the Northeast… specifically Rhode Island and then taking a couple of little trips from there…
And GUESS WHAT… here’s our little wedding video!!!! It just makes me so happy and I wanted to share it. 🙂
Have a great weekend, babes!